Tips on How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows
While there are no strict rules on how you should write your personal wedding vows, having a structured template makes the process so much easier. If having your own personalized vows is your thing, here are a few tips to get you started.
Start With a Few Ideas
Get a pen and a notebook and begin writing down your ideas of what you would like to tell your fiance on the big day. Your notes at this stage don’t need to flow. They need to reflect your thoughts, feelings, and expectations of the wonderful life you’ll have together.
To help you get started, think about how you met and how you built your relationship to this point. What are the things you love most about them, and what is the one thing about them that makes you want to spend your life’s adventures with them? How do they make you feel when you’re with them, and what are the things that you think make you perfect for each other?
You may not find all the answers to these questions at the same time, so I do advise having a wedding vows notebook with you at all times. It will come in handy when you get a sudden inspiration or idea, and you can quickly note it down wherever you are.
Get Inspo From Other Peoples’ Wedding Vows
Get inspired by what other couples have written for themselves. It will also help you structure your own wedding vows and get it to flow with your partner’s vows. With research, you’ll get to decide if you want the classic vows or you want a laid back wedding ceremony with funny vows.
You may also want to include quotes or a poem in your vows. The research will help you know which style works for you. The most important thing to remember is to be yourself. Make your vows personal, and don’t be afraid to open your heart to the love of your life.
Structure Your Vows
It’s time to put all your notes into a structured format. Ideally, your wedding vows should not be longer than a minute. Have it structured in a way that you get to highlight a few of the reasons that you love your partner with three or four promises at the end.
To make it easy to remember, keep your sentences short so that it almost reads like a poem. Also, keep your promises realistic, after all, you are meant to keep them.
Practice Saying Your Wedding Vows
It helps to manage stage fright and nervousness if you practice saying your vows out loud. It also helps to hear how the vow sounds and feels outside of your head and heart. You may want to make a few tweaks to make it perfect but remember it needs to sound and feel like the true expression of your whole heart.